Prioritize Your Marriage
Published Apr 19, 2022
I have heard that it is important to prioritize your marriage and really wondered what that practically looks like. I had an amazing example of my parents who I watched write notes, take anniversary trips, and intentionally put their marriage first.
This year we celebrated our 10 year anniversary and to be honest I was extremely disappointed. I thought this milestone would be huge and honestly it felt like another day. Then the let down happened when Levi told me we didn’t have money to do an anniversary trip this year… I was heartbroken. It was our ten year. It was supposed to be super special. From this point we had prioritized doing an anniversary trip to somewhere warm. I got married in winter for this reason :). This year looks a lot different. I am not working full time and we purchased the Known Women’s conference. These are blessings but came with sacrifices as well.
I wrestled with what does prioritizing your marriage look like if you have no money. So we started getting creative. Writing notes, playing cribbage, watching shows, playing games, and cooking meals at home together. In the past we had done Performing Arts Center tickets, dinner dates, and anniversary trips.
I had realized I was idolizing these things and what they meant in our marriage. After some unexpected circumstances (we got taxes back from me not working full time) Levi said we could take a budget trip for our anniversary.
We just got back from driving from New Orleans. It was an amazing time of connection and fun. We enjoyed TIME together. We celebrated 10 years by remembering our last 10 years and specifically writing down memories from the last year. We dreamed of the next year and made goals for the next 10 years to come. We read books and had authentic and real conversations. We ate good food and laughed and made new memories together.
I know it is important to invest in your marriage. It is important to make time for one another. Even when kids, jobs, and life seem to get in the way you need to fight for your marriage. Make time. Create moments. And remember what is worth fighting for.
